A Personal Growth Journey: From Healing to Self-Reliance

There were many times during my personal growth journey when I wished someone would come and save me. I thought if I went to the right healer, therapist, or spoke to a friend, they would take the emotional pain I was feeling away. Back then, I would have tried anything that promised to fix me, always searching for answers outside myself, chasing something that would make it all go away, to lift the heaviness I was carrying.

Waiting for Someone to Step In

I was hoping someone would notice what was going on with me and tell me exactly what I needed to do so I could get past it. But no one could. The truth is, many times I was unaware of what was going on with me internally. I wasn’t ready to see what was right in front of me; I needed time to process and work through things at my own pace. No one else can step in and tell you what you need to do when you’re still figuring it out yourself. No one can do the inner work for you. 

The Real Work: Doing It Yourself

Others can support you, guide you, love you, hold space for you, and offer tools, but the real inner work—is something you have to do for yourself.

Finding Strength Through Self-Reliance

If someone had come and saved me, I wouldn’t have learned how strong I really am. I wouldn’t have learned how to listen to myself or sit with uncomfortable feelings instead of running from them. I used to think healing was about finding the right external thing to fix me. Now, I understand that healing isn’t about fixing anything, it’s about realising there’s nothing to fix because I was never broken. It was about reconnecting with myself, going inward, and listening to my mind, body, and soul.

Realising No One Is Coming to Save You

No one is coming to save you. As harsh as that sounds, it’s also the most freeing realisation you can have. When you stop waiting for someone else to save you, you can begin to be there for yourself fully.

Learning and Reconnecting

I learned to reconnect with myself by sitting with my feelings instead of avoiding them. I reached out for support when I needed it. I started to really feel my emotions. I showed up for myself. I showed myself self-love through daily actions, in the way I speak to myself, in the choices I make, and in the boundaries I set. I rest when I’m tired, without guilt, say no when I need to, and show up for what matters.

A Personal Growth Journey

This journey isn’t about becoming a perfect version of myself. I still get things wrong and don’t always react to things in the best way, but I am learning. I’ve realised that my worth isn’t tied to how well I’m coping or how quickly I’m healing. My journey has shifted from healing to growth. I realise I was never broken and there’s nothing to fix. This growth has helped me understand myself better, let go of past hurts, and learn to forgive myself for not knowing better in the past. I am more aware and accepting of who I am. This journey is not about staying stuck in healing; it’s about moving forward and becoming more of who I’ve always been. It becomes a journey of constant evolution, with a mindset that shifts toward growth, strength, and peace.

The Person You’ve Been Waiting For

There will always be people who can support or guide you on your journey, but they can’t take your pain away or do your healing for you. The person who can do that for you is you.

Remember, if you’re struggling with your mental health, emotional wellbeing, or anything discussed in this post, please remember that help is available. Don’t hesitate to reach out to a professional for support. You are not alone, and there are people ready to listen and assist you.